The Ultimate Blowjob Guide For Women Who Hate Giving Head

What comes to mind when you hear “blowjob?” “Yum” or “ew”? If it’s the latter, don’t panic. This is your guide to giving great head and enjoying it!

What’s the thing that every man loves the most? Drinking a cold beer on a hot day and watching his favorite game on TV? Sure… while his woman kneels down in front of him and wraps her mouth and tongue around his love tool!
Foreplay is the most important part of the lovemaking experience. I mean, yes, we’ve all had quickies without foreplay that were so amazing that we’ll remember them forever, but in general, we can all agree that great sex requires phenomenal foreplay.
And we can’t talk about foreplay without mentioning oral sex.
Men are in heaven when they receive oral sex. But, unfortunately, there are women who are just not into it.
Why do women hate giving head?
What’s the thing that disgusts women most when it comes to giving head? Is it the mere sight of a penis? Or do they think this part of sex is not hygienic? Is it the act itself? Do they think it’s disrespectful and degrading to them?

Things are not always black and white. There are plenty of reasons why women dislike the idea of giving a blowjob.
What thoughts go through your head when giving a blowjob?
Do women think about the act? Or do they think about what to wear tomorrow to work? The women of Reddit answered what they are thinking about while giving head. These included:
How can I get this hair out of my mouth while still trying to look sexy?
My jaw hurts like hell.
I need an oxygen pump.
My eyes are watering. There goes my mascara.
Watch the teeth, the teeth… OH GOD, DID I JUST TOUCH IT WITH MY TEETH? That’s it. He’s cringing in pain.
This better be reciprocated.
And, of course, every woman’s “favorite”: Don’t gag. Don’t gag. Don’t… *almost vomits* Dammit.
Men say blowjobs make them feel loved and special. Usually, women’s feelings about blowjobs depend on their feelings about their partners. However, giving oral sex has remained a dirty taboo and is still considered impure and disgusting for some. Some women don’t like to get up close to a man’s private parts, or they think that “good girls don’t give head.” Let’s sin, honey. [Read: Road head confessions of a good girl]
Let’s get started
First things first, you have learn how to be comfortable with the act if you want to be able to enjoy doing it. Don’t feel bad about fellatio—it’s totally normal and healthy. Moreover, it’s a perfect way to spice up your sex life.
For me, oral sex is a sensual and fine art. It’s the most selfless thing you can do sexually for your partner. Giving head isn’t rocket science, but there are a few tips that will make your blowjob technique superior.
#1 The warm up. Pull his shirt up and kiss him passionately. Get creative with your location—it doesn’t have to be in the bedroom. Break out of your comfortable shell and get dominant. Push him onto the floor or bed and make out. Glide your lips across his face and neck and lick his earlobe. Suck his lower lip and move down toward his neck, chest, and stomach. Unbutton his pants and kiss back up to his lips, while placing your hand on his bulge. Squeeze, but be gentle. Go down on him, take off his pants and his underwear, look him in the eyes, and get ready for some action.

#2 Position. The position you choose is totally up to you and your partner. You may want to try it with him standing and you kneeling in front of him, him sitting with you kneeling in front of him, or him lying down on the bed or floor with you tucked between his legs. Keep in mind that when he’s lying down, he’s most relaxed, so he’ll probably enjoy the show to the fullest in this position.
#3 The moves. The most sensitive areas are the head of his penis, the testicles, and the perineum, the spot between the testicles and the anus. But let’s not forget the lower stomach and his inner thighs. Gently kiss these areas as well when going down.

Continue by gently kissing the head of his penis, making sure your lips are moist before taking his penis into your mouth. Slide your tongue from the base to the head. Wet your lips and make out with his love tool a bit. Move up and down, wrapping your lips tightly around his shaft. This way, you’re creating a vacuum effect that will make your partner go weak at the knees.
Use your tongue *a lot*. Circle it around his head and lick his shaft.
#4 Get your hands in there. A good oral session involves hand work, too. Form a ring with your thumb and forefinger, and work his penis up and down while you’re working with your mouth on the top. Your mouth may need a break, so give him a hand job. Then, once you’re rested and ready, bring him back into your mouth.
#5 The balls. While you’re working the shaft, stimulate his balls by gently massaging them. If you want, you can also use your mouth on them, but please, no teeth! These babies are extremely sensitive, so be gentle. Let him guide you as to how much pressure feels the best for him. Lick and suck his balls while stroking his penis.

#6 Deepthroat? This doesn’t have to be something to completely avoid, even if you think you have a sensitive gag reflex. The key to mastering this technique is to start out slowly, allowing yourself to get used to the feeling. Believe it or not, practice really does make perfect in this case, as the more you get accustomed to the feeling, the easier it will become to relax your gag reflex.
Just go as far as you can, and stop there. Swallow if you need to swallow, take a breath, and get used to the sensation. Once your throat is relaxed and you’re comfortable in the position, try a little further, but don’t push too quickly. Find the best angle to get the least resistance.
Believe in yourself, believe that you’re great at giving head, and you will really be. Make sure every kiss, lick, suck, and look is secure and sincere.
#7 Look into his eyes. Blowjob eyes are the best eyes. There’s nothing sexier for men than blowjob eyes looking right at them. Your partner will feel like a prisoner to you every time he sees you’re looking at him. Make sure he sees joy in your eyes. You look beautiful and amazing from up there. Wink or smile at him… but beware, he may faint.
The crucial moment to give him those blowjob eyes is the moment he’s having an orgasm.
#8 Finish. There are many porn things men like during blowjobs that women are not quite fans of. Watering eyes, gagging on a penis, face-fucking, etc. But keep in mind that these things aren’t real expectations, unless of course, you’re also into them. Any effort you show him will leave him feeling amazing.
This is definitely something to keep in mind when the time comes for the age-old question: to spit or to swallow?
Spitting—running to the bathroom after he cums—can be awkward and even offensive. Let him cum in your mouth, but if you don’t want to swallow, you don’t have to. You can spit in a paper towel or a tissue nearby.
But really, swallowing can be hot, even for women! The tricky thing with swallowing is that you can’t predict what the taste will be like. Semen taste depends on many things, including his diet and health. In general, the taste is something between “that didn’t have taste at all” to “sour, but satisfying.”

It’s worth giving it a try, and if you don’t like it, you can always have him finish elsewhere on your body, which can be equally as sexy.
Learn from the pros
The porn industry is a multi-billion-dollar industry. Why? They know what sells. Let’s be clear, though: porn is NOT an instruction manual for how to give head or have sex in real life. But honestly, you can learn a thing or two in a non-judgmental and safe environment.
There are categories like blowjob tutorials, how to give a blowjob, etc. So start watching videos, see how the pros are doing it, and copy what you like.
How to make yourself love the oral groove?
Are blowjobs that important?
Damn right they are! Beer, bacon, and blowjobs—the 3 Bs men can’t get enough of. Oral sex can be very pleasurable and intimate. Some men even consider it more intimate than intercourse. Your warm and moist mouth, combined with your tongue’s gymnastics, can really create a thrilling sensation for your man.
Let me tell you, blowjobs can be fun and enjoyable for women. There’s nothing more exciting than seeing your partner in ecstasy and knowing that you’re the only one responsible for it! Giving a blowjob can really make you feel powerful.

Hank Moody, when talking about his girlfriend, said, ”It was as if she were dying of thirst and my cock were the fountain of everlasting youth.” Be that girl. Love his cock. Love it more than your cat, or your favorite dish. Be hungry for his penis, and show him you’re literally starving for it.